One of my goals at my age of 51 is to pour into other women . I call it planting seeds.
I want to help them and cheer them on SO THAT they are wiser down the road when they reach 51 years old. SO THAT they can pour into their children and other women. Confident Women empowering confidence in women. THERE IS SUCH A NEED.

I call my beautiful friends out when they speak negatively about themselves. Everyone knows me for very long, knows my $5.00 saying. For everything negative they say about themselves, I collect $5.00.

One of the beauties that I adore,  her total is adding up quickly, I said to her this past week,  ‘You are taking me to Fleming’s for dinner. ” We laugh, but there is truth in this. We would never dream of talking to another like we talk to ourselves. Well, on second thought some women do talk to other women like this, so I would love to address this again.

What if you called someone out in love when they are acting petty? What if you help them be a better version of themselves? What if we displayed the actions we want to see?

I do not understand jealousy and not wanting to help others be a better version of themselves. We all have gifts. We all have talents. How I wish I could scream BE YOU – Beautifully. I told a beautiful young woman today, IF IF IF you have one true friend in this lifetime, you have a treasure. Come on ladies, BE THAT friend you want .

Ask the Lord to guide you and help you . When you genuinely surrender to Him, He will not make any mistakes in shaping your life. Also, ask him for discernment and wisdom. He will give it to you. Everyone that says they are your friend, well sorry, they are not always your friend. Sad but true. Keep the inner circle tight. Again, anyone that tries to sow discord in your marriage, makes you feel less than by stirring the pot of discord, or your gut instinct keeps warning you… believe your instincts.

For wherever there is jealousy and selfish ambition, there you will find disorder and evil of every kind. James 3:16


I am in competition with NO ONE. Rinse and Repeat !

The Lord put me on this earth to run my own race, not someone else’s.
God IS the game changer.

IF you feel less than., not worthy, not enough, speak lowly of yourself, YOU DID NOT get these ideas from our loving Heavenly Father.

So… who is whispering in your ear?

One day, I hope more of us get it.

#NotYourRival #NotMyRivalEither 

In His Love and Mine,


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The Stirring of my Soul



The more I come back to a place of worship. The more I discipline my physical body to stop and spend time with my Heavenly Father, my thoughts are like my beloved KitchenAid mixer. The beaters start to run faster. The joy of the Lord starts running over.

A quest has started within me. I have questions now more than ever. How do I live loved EVERY DAY? Even on those days when I feel rejected?

How do I share the Lord… better?

How do I live un-offendable?

How can I be better at being a follower to the God I serve? When I do this, I automatically will be a  better wife, Mom and friend, ______  fill in the blank.

I have told a few people  I trust and respect about the stirring happening inside me once again. As my beautiful little business partner said to me today, “YOU thinking deep !!!”

The Lord and my hour together is the 3 am hour by most accounts. It seems like this is when he whispers, come to me and converse with me. Or then again it might be him saying, it is the only time I could FULLY get your attention Darla so 3 AM it is. That is a topic for another day.

My quiet time is back to involving reading too. I am obsessed with the book, Uninvited. There are so many truths. I better bring out ALL my different color highlighters. I am taking notes. I am writing down quotes. Writing questions to ponder for my take aways from each page I cannot contain. It is like having free range in a candy store as a kid. All my pockets are filled to the brim. I have folded the bottom of my t-shirt and stuffed it full with candy, holding my  folded shirt with both hands to not spill any but they spill over anyway.

So here the truth take away so far today. Sometimes we think those awesome positive thought about our loved ones and friends but we do not take the time to write them or tell them. I want to challenge you today. Every person you encounter today has some deep hidden hurt. EVERY PERSON is desperate for your love,  acceptance and encouragement. Every person, from the server at the restaurant , your Mom, Dad, Husband, child, friend,  coworker. Every person has some deep wounding in their heart that your love and acceptance could speak to in a powerful way.

How can we weave the positives into others today??? Life change happens in relationships.

Change starts with me ! Change starts with you ! We are to bring the fullness of God. We have to represent him or look at it like we have to RE-present God everyday.

When we change our lens and look at it as we RE-present God in our daily situations. The dictionary says, (present (something) again, especially for further consideration or in an altered form.) We will understand that it is our job if we walk into an air of discord, to bring  peace. It is our job to BRING IT ~

It is up to us if we pick up the baggage that is thrown our way throughout the day. We have a choice. When the trash is slung our way, Recognize it for what it is and say No- No , I am not going to pick up that negative vibe you just laid down because…. I AM  LIVING LOVED.

The more we learn to live LOVED, the more we are able to  truly display love to others. The enemy want us to feel less than, rejected, left out and lonely. BUT GOD says, we are loved. Loved with a love that can never be diminished, tarnished, shaken or taken . His love is full warranted. His love is eternal.  He is with us and He will never forsake us.

Truly as Natalie Cole sings … This will be an EVERLASTING LOVE !

P.S. Get the Book !


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A Contrite Heart



I watched a sermon this early morning on a changed heart. Steve Furtick talks about real lasting change has to happen in your heart in his sermon 3 Habits of a Healthy Heart.

What does it mean to have a contrite heart?

The Bible speaks many times of a contrite heart.  Isaiah 66:2, the Lord says, “These are the ones I look on with favor: those who are humble and contrite in spirit, and who tremble at my word.”

Psalm 51:17, David writes, “The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise.”

You find it with  verses that also speak of  humility, brokenness, and a healthy fear of God’s Word. So what exactly does it mean to be contrite?

According to the  IBE, (International Bible Encyclopedia) “A contrite heart is one in which the natural pride and self-sufficiency have been completely humbled by the consciousness of guilt.” The Hebrew and Greek words often translated “contrite” actually mean “crushed, crippled, or broken.”

When we as  people  stop justifying our wrong choices, when our eyes are truly open to our sin, when we humbly accepts God’s righteous condemnation of sin, contrition is present. It is when our actions speak so much louder than our words. It is when we become real and transparent. A contrite heart wants to listen and obey God . The more we fall in love with the Lord, the more we will WANT and DESIRE to do things that please him.

A contrite heart offers no excuses and shifts no blame.  A contrite heart throws itself upon the mercy of God, knowing that it deserves nothing but righteous wrath (Isaiah 6:5; Psalm 41:4). STOP for a minute, rewind,  pause , ponder this… NO EXCUSES AND SHIFTS NO BLAME. So not the norm today.

The place of contrition is a blessed place to be. God says, “I live in a high and holy place, but also with the one who is contrite and lowly in spirit, to revive the spirit of the lowly and to revive the heart of the contrite” (Isaiah 57:15). Those with a contrite  heart are promised a dwelling place with God. Their broken hearts will be made new.

A contrite heart does not take the forgiveness of God for granted. It is grieved over its own sin and contrition is a key to true repentance. Without it, we are like the proud Pharisee, going through the motions of religion but harboring arrogance in our hearts.

As Pastor Steven reminds us again, lasting change happens in the heart so that a new mindset is formed. It is where the beautiful transformation starts to happen. It is where His light starts shining through.

It is up to God to mould, transform, and sanctify us as we journey through this earthly life. But, we have a part to play also. We have to be willing. We have to take action and humble ourselves before the Lord.

GOD MAKES ALL THINGS NEW. He takes a broken and contrite heart and restores the JOY of our salvation.  We have to bow down before we can ever be raised up. C.S. Lewis says, “We are taller when we bow.” It reminds me, humility before honor.

Still learning  at 51 years old, the best way to heal a broken heart is to give God ALL the pieces. Thank you Lord for never giving up on me even when I have given you so many reasons to walk away.  Forgive me of my yesterdays and today is a new day to take one step closer to you.




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What Is In Your Stall ? Another Spiritual Lesson From My Every Day Life ~

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Our Identity IN Christ


Our identity in Christ is a powerful position. No matter what, Christ is enough.

Proverbs 28:1- The righteous is as bold as a lion.

The enemy knows he cannot steal your identity and purpose. But, he can steal your confidence and boldness. Our enemy may have some power BUT he does not sit on the throne. REPLACE the enemies lies with truth.

Psalms 55:22- Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you . He will never let the righteous fall.

May each day we walk a step closer to the goal – To LIVE IS CHRIST. May we call out to God with as amazing posture of humility.

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21 Days of Prayer- Uphill Habits



“Even now,” declares the LORD, “return to me with all your heart, with fasting and weeping and mourning.”Joel 2:12

First morning of 21 days of Prayer and Fasting starts today.

I listened to the sermon twice yesterday titled, Uphill Habits. I encourage you to take the time to watch it at  Pastor Chris reminds us that we are what we repeatedly do. We form habits and then our habits form us. Everything worth while is uphill.

There is something about giving God our first. Not just the tithes. The first of everything. The first part of our day. The first of your thoughts. He desires to be first in everything. As our Pastor said yesterday, If God is somewhere on your list, but, He is not first, He is not on your list. Or another way of saying it, IF God is not first in your life than He is not in your life. Give God the first and He multiples the rest.

So, this morning I think once again of the power of prayer. Don’t ever underestimate the power of prayer. May we confidently call on the one that sits on the mercy seat of heaven. May we ask for His mighty hand to move on this earth, in whatever situation we face. Pray outside the box. Think outside the box. IF we would only remember the words… BUT GOD to whatever it is that we are praying for today.

Our prayers in someone’s dark hour can move His spirit to light their path. Our prayers for someone who is hurting can usher in His comfort. Our prayers of protection over someone can send His angels to their aid. Our prayers are the evidence of His power at work in our world. One day, on the other side, we will see how our prayers affected and protected many lives while we lived.

May today we return to him with our whole heart. We all know what part of our heart needs returning. Whatever it is. remember God is willing to bless your life in unimaginable ways.

Pastor Chris reminded us yesterday of the first words in the Bible, IN THE BEGINNING GOD…  

May we truly grasp the truth that “God’s promises must drive us to His precepts as our rules and then His precepts must send us back to His promises for strength, for without His grace we can do nothing. ” Matthew Henry

It does not matter what you have done in your past. It does not matter where we are right now, just do a course correction starting today. Return to him with all of your  heart and start to see the generosity of our Lord begin to unfold. For the Lord always keeps his promises and He is gracious in all He does.




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Becoming Fearless


2 Timothy 1:7- is my scripture. Notice I did not say it was my favorite scripture that would be Phil. 4:13, I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

2 Timothy 1:7 is the scripture that if I turn to left, it is there, if I turn to the right, it is there. It follows me wherever I go. So much, that I humbled myself to  own it and put it on a bracelet as a reminder to me.  Most people, call me anything but fearful.  It is an Italian gene to be bold.  But, God knows my heart. I am fearful of many things, One, stepping up to the battle line where he has called me to be. Front  line and center. I am much more comfortable behind the scenes. When you are on the front lines, you have to be fit. Have to have a strategic plan. Have to drown out all the noise around you. Have to be focused at all times.  Have to act and not react.  Have to always be accountable for your actions and know  there are others behind you that you are accountable for if you stumble and fall. Sounds like a lot of responsibility.

He has sent so many confirmations. His reminders, His probing . His word that says, this is not about you, it is for others.  You are the tool, I am the  Mighty Craftsman. You are my princess warrior but I am the King. When you are not actively pursuing and stepping out  in faith into the will of God, it can be a very uncomfortable place to be living in. We say we like our comfort zone but he can make that very  place uncomfortable so we will move forward.

What are your fears?  We all have them inside. What is stopping you from stepping up to the plate ? Who is He crafting you to be? For we are all Princess Warriors Or Prince Warriors for the God in which we serve.

As I take this scripture to heart one more time, God did not give us the spirit of fear, but of power, love and self discipline. How I have to let that sink in.  Love, Lord, some people are just too hard to love. Discipline, Lord, do you see all what is asked of me already?   HE does and he still requires  discipline to not let my mood dictate my manners. Power, some days I am good to put one foot  in front of the other AND not kill someone who hurts me or others that I love  and they do it with no regard. I understand the bridle example in James so well after having horses. We all need duct tape. Guess, it was not around in the Biblical days. But, we all need lots and lots of cases of duct tape. For our mouth and hand it out to others when a brother or sister needs a reminder.

God calls things as they are in His eyes, not as we see things.  HE truly calls the things that are not as if they were. Just like Elijah seeing dry bones come to life.He called Gideon a valiant warrior when he was hiding and was afraid to fight. HE called him Valiant Warrior several times BEFORE he showed any attributes of a warrior. Gideon, was saying, “Who …me? You surely have me mixed up with someone else.”

God gave us the stories in the Bible as reminders. What a reminder it is! ,  The Lord whispers , I AM the same God who gave Gideon strength to win his battle AND I AM YOUR GOD.

I am still learning the only time fear , doubts, unrest, anxiousness, anger ( No, not the righteous anger, keeping it real)  will overtake my heart is when I have taken my eyes off of God, PERIOD. I looked up a word yesterday that someone shared with me to get the true grasp of it, Disquieted. It is to be worried, anxious, perturbed, agitated, unnerved, unsettled, discontent, troubled , upset. Boy does that cover a lot. So, what are you disquieted about? There is a list for me that I have to bring before the foot of the cross and nail it there !

This morning as I read my devotion,  I am reminded, as long as I am walking in God’s truth, I have nothing to fear. No matter what it looks like now, victory will be mine. So, I have to fear NOT, He will never leave my side, day or night, He is beside me. Equipping , guiding , I must simply listen and more importantly, quit over thinking , quit the why’s, quit the what if’s, simply close my eyes , step out in the unknown and obey.

May each one of us find time to spend  with the one that refuels our courage. With the new morning comes new mercies and grace. The old has gone and the new has come ! AND REMEMBER,  He is the King who removes every fear.

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