Mirror Mirror On The Wall…





And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose (Romans 8:28, NIV).

God has a plan to take every adversity and every hardship you go through and use it. He takes that difficulty and supernaturally turns it around and uses it to bring you good. How do we live more victorious?

Last night in our Bible study group, we talked about what happens if we have weak muscles. If we have muscles that we have not used correctly, we might begin a weight training program to grow in strength and skill. When we apply this same principle to our faith, we build our faith by reading God’s word, retraining our thought process to line up with Biblical truth. Just like weight lifters need a spotter at times, we need a spotter to encourage, challenge and support us in this faith building process. Godly friends are so important.

One of the most important faith building steps is to  KNOW what the word of God says about our lives. Often our world view and past experiences shapes OUR VERSION of truth. We need to remember that the past is a place of reference NOT a place of residence.  To become more victorious, we have to align our beliefs with the truth of the Bible.  Another way to say this is, we  don’t just read the Bible, we need to let it read us.

2 Corth. 10:5 says that every thought should be examined for Godly accuracy. IF is does not line up with what the Bible says, we must take it captive and make it obedient to the word of God.

Today, may we stand on the unmoving word of God. May we be doers of the word and not just hearers only. Let’s TRUST the one that loves the process ~ It is in the process that we learn to trust the Lord without borders. To cross to the other side of the mountain with only a leap of faith.

Philippians 4:8  tells us, Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things

If we want to live more victorious, if we want to  make the world a better place,  take a look at yourself in the mirror with Biblical truths, then make that…Change.





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Filled with the Fullness of God, What does that really mean?



“And to know the love of Christ, which passeth knowledge, that ye might be filled with all the fullness of God.”

Surpass knowledge? How do we become filled with the FULLNESS of GOD?

I listened to a sermon from Francis Chan this morning. It really has me thinking and searching on this scripture.

Paul is writing Timothy. In this book of Ephesians,  Paul  speaks about the ends times and describes how rough they are going to be. But, hey listen up, go read the Bible for yourself. When you think about it, the world has always been the world. The world was  bad back then, people were killed for their faith. Tortured and thrown in prison . The world is bad now.  Reading and studying , Paul, is talking about the church.  Isn’t this chapter really talking about when the sins of the world have starting creeping in the church and we can not distinguish the difference is when we know we are in the end times?

Folks,  let’s be real, we are in the times where we have to quit playing church.QUIT PLAYING THE ROLE. Quit checking in on FaceBook every time we walk in church for the world to see. God sees when we go to church, he does not need us to check in on FB to let him know. So who are we checking in for? Have we been known to throw a few scriptures out at someone and pat ourselves on the back. Do we feel good about ourselves because we have spent five minutes with God in prayer and we can check it off our to do list? Our culture is spiraling out of control. As Francis Chan said this morning, GET OVER YOURSELF ~ We need mighty, powerful prayers. I read a quote, Don’t tell God how big your problem is, tell your problem you have a BIG GOD ~

To obtain the fullness of God is to do something we have never done. To strip ourselves of anything that is hindering us from following him completely. For each of us , it is something different but trust me we ALL have restraints that are holding us back.

Being comfortable creates complacency most of the time for me. It does not have to but let’s be honest and take a good look at ourselves and our own struggles and sins.

It seems to me that Paul’s’ desire is for Timothy and the church to grow in God’s love. He has a specific purpose. The only other time this phrase is mentioned in scripture  again is Colossians 1:19. “For in Jesus all the fullness of God was pleased to dwell. ” Clearly Jesus was divine. But, scripture tells us the same spirit that raised Christ from the dead lives in us!!! Greater is He that is in me than he that is in the world.

So, what is holding us back?  Look in the mirror, You are.  I am. Our purpose as CHRIST-ians is to be filled with Jesus as much as possible. How do we start taking the right steps to  have this fullness?

Lord show us,  how do we become?  Teach me to become. Show us the way to have the fullness of you. Open our eyes to our complacency , anything that would keep us from following you. My heart has deceived me many times before and I have walked in my own desires, STRIP away all of my selfishness and clothe me with more of you. Lord, you have searched  all of us. You have searched me and you  know me well and even so you still invite me to come into your presence. HE STILL invites us. He still loves us. Right where we are, He wipes the dirt off our face and dust us off and says come join me.

Heaven knows there should be no difference between Sunday morning and the rest of the week. Our father wants to speak to me here on a horse farm in Wilsonville, Al with my bed head and no make up on this Saturday morning as he does when I dress up in my favorite outfit.. We may go days without thinking of him, but there is not a moment when he is not thinking about us.

The word says in  Galatians 5:6 the only thing that matters is FAITH expressing itself through love. So, taking this scripture and believing this is true, God knows that love both thoughts and actions is the KEY to the fullness of God in the life of a Christian.

Our hearts are like a garden. There are some flowers and there are some weeds. We need just the right amount of fertilizer, sun and rain and that can only come through spending time with him. At times the pruning is painful but I am leaning on you Jesus. Forgive me for the times this week that I have not represented you well. But, I know no matter where I am and what trials I am facing, whatever the season, by your grace I stand for as the song says, there is healing in your hands.

May we sow the seeds of love and goodness so that we can enjoy this fullness of God that he wants for each of us. For in his presence there is fullness of joy.

Starting today, please join me, I would love the help, prayers and accountable of friends too,  one step at a time, one day at a time,  may we be willing for the Lord to teach us and guide us like never before in 2018.






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One of my goals at my age of 51 is to pour into other women . I call it planting seeds.
I want to help them and cheer them on SO THAT they are wiser down the road when they reach 51 years old. SO THAT they can pour into their children and other women. Confident Women empowering confidence in women. THERE IS SUCH A NEED.

I call my beautiful friends out when they speak negatively about themselves. Everyone knows me for very long, knows my $5.00 saying. For everything negative they say about themselves, I collect $5.00.

One of the beauties that I adore,  her total is adding up quickly, I said to her this past week,  ‘You are taking me to Fleming’s for dinner. ” We laugh, but there is truth in this. We would never dream of talking to another like we talk to ourselves. Well, on second thought some women do talk to other women like this, so I would love to address this again.

What if you called someone out in love when they are acting petty? What if you help them be a better version of themselves? What if we displayed the actions we want to see?

I do not understand jealousy and not wanting to help others be a better version of themselves. We all have gifts. We all have talents. How I wish I could scream BE YOU – Beautifully. I told a beautiful young woman today, IF IF IF you have one true friend in this lifetime, you have a treasure. Come on ladies, BE THAT friend you want .

Ask the Lord to guide you and help you . When you genuinely surrender to Him, He will not make any mistakes in shaping your life. Also, ask him for discernment and wisdom. He will give it to you. Everyone that says they are your friend, well sorry, they are not always your friend. Sad but true. Keep the inner circle tight. Again, anyone that tries to sow discord in your marriage, makes you feel less than by stirring the pot of discord, or your gut instinct keeps warning you… believe your instincts.

For wherever there is jealousy and selfish ambition, there you will find disorder and evil of every kind. James 3:16


I am in competition with NO ONE. Rinse and Repeat !

The Lord put me on this earth to run my own race, not someone else’s.
God IS the game changer.

IF you feel less than., not worthy, not enough, speak lowly of yourself, YOU DID NOT get these ideas from our loving Heavenly Father.

So… who is whispering in your ear?

One day, I hope more of us get it.

#NotYourRival #NotMyRivalEither 

In His Love and Mine,


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The Stirring of my Soul



The more I come back to a place of worship. The more I discipline my physical body to stop and spend time with my Heavenly Father, my thoughts are like my beloved KitchenAid mixer. The beaters start to run faster. The joy of the Lord starts running over.

A quest has started within me. I have questions now more than ever. How do I live loved EVERY DAY? Even on those days when I feel rejected?

How do I share the Lord… better?

How do I live un-offendable?

How can I be better at being a follower to the God I serve? When I do this, I automatically will be a  better wife, Mom and friend, ______  fill in the blank.

I have told a few people  I trust and respect about the stirring happening inside me once again. As my beautiful little business partner said to me today, “YOU thinking deep !!!”

The Lord and my hour together is the 3 am hour by most accounts. It seems like this is when he whispers, come to me and converse with me. Or then again it might be him saying, it is the only time I could FULLY get your attention Darla so 3 AM it is. That is a topic for another day.

My quiet time is back to involving reading too. I am obsessed with the book, Uninvited. There are so many truths. I better bring out ALL my different color highlighters. I am taking notes. I am writing down quotes. Writing questions to ponder for my take aways from each page I cannot contain. It is like having free range in a candy store as a kid. All my pockets are filled to the brim. I have folded the bottom of my t-shirt and stuffed it full with candy, holding my  folded shirt with both hands to not spill any but they spill over anyway.

So here the truth take away so far today. Sometimes we think those awesome positive thought about our loved ones and friends but we do not take the time to write them or tell them. I want to challenge you today. Every person you encounter today has some deep hidden hurt. EVERY PERSON is desperate for your love,  acceptance and encouragement. Every person, from the server at the restaurant , your Mom, Dad, Husband, child, friend,  coworker. Every person has some deep wounding in their heart that your love and acceptance could speak to in a powerful way.

How can we weave the positives into others today??? Life change happens in relationships.

Change starts with me ! Change starts with you ! We are to bring the fullness of God. We have to represent him or look at it like we have to RE-present God everyday.

When we change our lens and look at it as we RE-present God in our daily situations. The dictionary says, (present (something) again, especially for further consideration or in an altered form.) We will understand that it is our job if we walk into an air of discord, to bring  peace. It is our job to BRING IT ~

It is up to us if we pick up the baggage that is thrown our way throughout the day. We have a choice. When the trash is slung our way, Recognize it for what it is and say No- No , I am not going to pick up that negative vibe you just laid down because…. I AM  LIVING LOVED.

The more we learn to live LOVED, the more we are able to  truly display love to others. The enemy want us to feel less than, rejected, left out and lonely. BUT GOD says, we are loved. Loved with a love that can never be diminished, tarnished, shaken or taken . His love is full warranted. His love is eternal.  He is with us and He will never forsake us.

Truly as Natalie Cole sings … This will be an EVERLASTING LOVE !

P.S. Get the Book !


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A Contrite Heart



I watched a sermon this early morning on a changed heart. Steve Furtick talks about real lasting change has to happen in your heart in his sermon 3 Habits of a Healthy Heart.

What does it mean to have a contrite heart?

The Bible speaks many times of a contrite heart.  Isaiah 66:2, the Lord says, “These are the ones I look on with favor: those who are humble and contrite in spirit, and who tremble at my word.”

Psalm 51:17, David writes, “The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise.”

You find it with  verses that also speak of  humility, brokenness, and a healthy fear of God’s Word. So what exactly does it mean to be contrite?

According to the  IBE, (International Bible Encyclopedia) “A contrite heart is one in which the natural pride and self-sufficiency have been completely humbled by the consciousness of guilt.” The Hebrew and Greek words often translated “contrite” actually mean “crushed, crippled, or broken.”

When we as  people  stop justifying our wrong choices, when our eyes are truly open to our sin, when we humbly accepts God’s righteous condemnation of sin, contrition is present. It is when our actions speak so much louder than our words. It is when we become real and transparent. A contrite heart wants to listen and obey God . The more we fall in love with the Lord, the more we will WANT and DESIRE to do things that please him.

A contrite heart offers no excuses and shifts no blame.  A contrite heart throws itself upon the mercy of God, knowing that it deserves nothing but righteous wrath (Isaiah 6:5; Psalm 41:4). STOP for a minute, rewind,  pause , ponder this… NO EXCUSES AND SHIFTS NO BLAME. So not the norm today.

The place of contrition is a blessed place to be. God says, “I live in a high and holy place, but also with the one who is contrite and lowly in spirit, to revive the spirit of the lowly and to revive the heart of the contrite” (Isaiah 57:15). Those with a contrite  heart are promised a dwelling place with God. Their broken hearts will be made new.

A contrite heart does not take the forgiveness of God for granted. It is grieved over its own sin and contrition is a key to true repentance. Without it, we are like the proud Pharisee, going through the motions of religion but harboring arrogance in our hearts.

As Pastor Steven reminds us again, lasting change happens in the heart so that a new mindset is formed. It is where the beautiful transformation starts to happen. It is where His light starts shining through.

It is up to God to mould, transform, and sanctify us as we journey through this earthly life. But, we have a part to play also. We have to be willing. We have to take action and humble ourselves before the Lord.

GOD MAKES ALL THINGS NEW. He takes a broken and contrite heart and restores the JOY of our salvation.  We have to bow down before we can ever be raised up. C.S. Lewis says, “We are taller when we bow.” It reminds me, humility before honor.

Still learning  at 51 years old, the best way to heal a broken heart is to give God ALL the pieces. Thank you Lord for never giving up on me even when I have given you so many reasons to walk away.  Forgive me of my yesterdays and today is a new day to take one step closer to you.




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What Is In Your Stall ? Another Spiritual Lesson From My Every Day Life ~

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Our Identity IN Christ


Our identity in Christ is a powerful position. No matter what, Christ is enough.

Proverbs 28:1- The righteous is as bold as a lion.

The enemy knows he cannot steal your identity and purpose. But, he can steal your confidence and boldness. Our enemy may have some power BUT he does not sit on the throne. REPLACE the enemies lies with truth.

Psalms 55:22- Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you . He will never let the righteous fall.

May each day we walk a step closer to the goal – To LIVE IS CHRIST. May we call out to God with as amazing posture of humility.

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