Surrendering…. Your Right To Be Right

joyce meyer

One of the  questions  I have been turning around in my head ALL DAY is “Do I want to be “right”or do I want to be happy?” Many times, the two are mutually exclusive!

Surrendering my right to be right ~ Surrender. Well, I know what it means, but, I  still  looked it up in the dictionary today and the full  meaning is – To relinquish possession or control of (something) to another because of demand or compulsion. To give up in favor of another, especially voluntarily. To give up or abandon.

I think the better question to ask is, Do I want to be right or do I want to be used by God?

Because being right, defending our positions, takes an enormous amount of mental energy and is stressful.  It  often alienates us from the people in our lives that we truly love and that we are called to love.   The need to be right or wanting to prove to  someone else that they are  wrong encourages others to become defensive. It is a never ending cycle. Yet, many of us (including me) spend a great deal of time and energy attempting to prove  that we are right. This is not a characteristic of Christ. As much as I hate to admit it when I am focusing on ME being right, my eyes are on ME not on HIM. OUCH ~

 Many people, consciously or unconsciously, love to correct and let their opinion be known.  Don’t you sometimes wonder if some people think it is their job to correct or to show others how their positions and  statements, or even their points of view are incorrect.  Do we really think that the person we are correcting is going to somehow like it or appreciate it ? Not, Notta, No ~ 

Let me ask you to think about this, Have you ever been corrected by someone and said to the person who was trying to be right, ” Wow, you are great. Thank you so much for showing me that I am wrong and you are  right. ”  Has anyone  ever thanked you when you corrected them, or made yourself “right” at their expense? Most all the time the answer is no.  The truth is, the flesh side  of us hates to be corrected. We all want our positions to be respected and understood by others. Being listened to and heard is one of the greatest desires of the human heart.  The most valued , loved and respected are those that truly know how to listen.

This is where a different perspective , a different lens needs to come into play. Speaking the truth in love. What a skill.  I am learning that we all could use some correcting, no matter where our walk is with the Lord. The Lord continues to refine, every day, each one of us. Once again, a reminder that  the word of God encourages, the word of God teaches and the word of God corrects and ALL are from the same loving God.

The more I am learning  about this less of me Lord and more of you DAILY walk, I am learning that we must learn to be UNOFFENDABLE.  Paul told Timothy to “reprove, (to scold or correct usually gently or with kindly intent) rebuke, exhort” . The full scripture is, Preach the word, be prepared in season and out of season, correct, rebuke and encourage–with great patience and careful instruction.

Did Paul say,  “exhort, exhort, exhort?” Exhortation is what most of us would like to receive, right? Certainly, we need to be encouraged, but there are also times  when we need to be corrected,  reproved and rebuked and yes, sometimes it can be painful to hear but necessary. Most of the time, people do not change by exhortation alone. There are areas in all of us that need to be confronted and disciplined.

We need to become the  disciplined difference makers that say, “Lord, show me what needs to change in me? What needs to be corrected in me?” then DO IT ~ I’m talking about G-r-o-w-i-n-g-  deeper spiritually.  God’s word tell us that, a wise man will receive a rebuke and he will prosper.

Proverbs 15: 5 A fool spurns a parent’s discipline, but whoever heeds (to pay attention to, to consider) correction shows prudence ( care, caution, and good judgment). 

Even though we in fact may be right, 100% right, we need to pray about it and take it to the Lord and allow him to work.  He is an all or nothing God. Once again, Lord of all or he is not Lord at all.  When we hold offense it takes our eyes off of the Creator. It takes time and energy that can be used for much better things.  God is our defender. He is a righteous judge. He will work all things out for our good and His glory IF we would only surrender our offenses to him. DAILY ~

Every day there is an  occasion for taking offense. Some days are  practically endless. Family members, Friends, Co-workers.  We are daily given the opportunity to either be offended by something or to possess an unoffendable heart. It is a choice we make.  The Lord’s promise is that He has given us a new heart,  a soft, teachable, correctable  heart that can be filled with His Spirit and abound with His love. Know that we have a part to play  ~  We have to pray daily. We have to carry offenses that we have and offenses we have given to the Lord and ask for forgiveness.  We have to surrender. Just like the old church hymn, I Surrender ALL.

All to Jesus I surrender;
All to Him I freely give;
I will ever love and trust Him,
In His presence daily live.

I surrender all,
I surrender all;
All to Thee, my blessed Savior,
I surrender all.
All to Jesus I surrender;
Humbly at His feet I bow,
Worldly pleasures all forsaken;
Take me, Jesus, take me now.
All to Jesus I surrender;
Make me, Savior, wholly Thine;
Let me feel the Holy Spirit,
Truly know that Thou art mine.
All to Jesus I surrender;
Lord, I give myself to Thee;
Fill me with Thy love and power;
Let Thy blessing fall on me.
All to Jesus I surrender;
Now I feel the sacred flame.
Oh, the joy of full salvation!
Glory, glory, to His Name!

Our Pastor Chris Hodges told a funny story in a sermon that there was a Chinese Pastor that once prayed, (JUST PICTURE THE ACCENT AND ALL) Lord, I pray every day for people, because I hate so many people.  P-r-a-y- …  D-a-i-l-y- ~


a. Divine love and protection bestowed freely on people.
b. The state of being protected or sanctified by the favor of God.
c. An excellence or power granted by God.


1. compassionate or kindly forbearance shown toward an offender, an enemy, or other person in one’s power; compassion
2. the disposition or discretionary power to be compassionate or forbearing.
3. an act of kindness, compassion, or favor.
4. something of good fortune; blessing

Lord, forgive me for the times I have been  so easily offended and for carrying offenses. Father, my heart can still be foolish at times.  Grant me an unoffendable heart. I want a heart likes yours. Lord, have your way. Have your way in me. Teach us and show us how to extend more grace and more mercy. More of you Lord each and every day.  Amen.

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